Monday, February 19, 2007
Muslim women don’t feel oppression
Muslim women do not mind the veil but want to vote as they wish, according to a survey released Thursday, in which respondents did not feel oppression in Muslim countries.
Lebanon had the highest proportion of women who feel they should be allowed to make their own decisions on voting, at 97 percent, followed by Egypt and Morocco, each at 95 percent. Lowest was Pakistan, with 68 percent, according to The New York Times reporting on a Gallup poll.
None of the 8,000 women surveyed even mentioned the use of the head scarf or the full-lenth burqa in open-ended questions, the Times said.
Despite the suffragist leanings, Muslim women set aside their own issues and said their countries had greater problems, such as violent extremism, corruption and lack of unity among Muslim countries.
Although women largely said they should be able to work outside the home and serve in the highest levels of government, they linked sexual equality with the West: 78 percent in Morocco, 71 percent in Lebanon and 48 percent in Saudi Arabia, the New York daily reported.However, when asked what they least admired about the West, they said moral decay, promiscuity and pornography, which degraded women.
A majority of the women said that economic or political advancement in Muslim countries would not improve with the adoption of Western values, the survey said, according to the New York daily.
Face-to-face interviews were conducted among 8,000 women in 2005 for "What Women Want: Listening to the Voices of Muslim Women," part of The Gallup World Poll, a project to canvass 95 percent of the world's people.
Overwhelming majorities of the women said the best aspect of their cultures was their countries' "attachment to moral and spiritual values," the Times said of the poll.
"Women's empowerment has been identified as a key goal of US policy in the region," said Dalia Mogahed, of The Gallup World Poll.
However, Mogahed said that what Muslim women really want has not been plumbed.
Egyptian-born Mogahed wears a head scarf, and said that Muslim women have not been brainwashed, according to the Times.
She cited as proof statements of the respondents that they deserved certain rights.
"In every culture there is a dominant narrative, and in many cases it is constructed by people in power who happen to be men," she was quoted as saying in the Times.
Source:Hindustanis.org
WOMEN (What We Are)
WOMEN are a good thing!
WOMEN are soft!
WOMEN are sensuous!
WOMEN are sexy!
WOMEN are sweet tasting!
WOMEN are fun to play with!
WOMEN are pleasing to the eye!
WOMEN are strong!
WOMEN are child bearers!
WOMEN are much needed mates!
WOMEN are an emotional species!
WOMEN are the passion of men!
WOMEN are beautiful to men!
WOMEN are temptresses!
WOMEN are curvaceous!
WOMEN are mistresses!
WOMEN are wives!
WOMEN are friends!
WOMEN are bitches!
WOMEN are behind every successful man! (wink)
WOMEN are comfort!
WOMEN bleed!
WOMEN cry!
WOMEN are what make men tick!
WOMEN are like the ocean. When they feel loved, their self esteem rises and falls like the ocean at its wildest time. A woman`s ability to accept and return her love is usually a reflection of how she sees herself. If a woman sees herself as happy and sexy, her arms and heart are wide open. When she sees herself as down and plain, she falls into a pit of darkness and numbness. During this time an open mind and heart is much needed to be on the receiving end. Then, and only then can she rise up and feel all the love that is within her and be of pure radiant love and intimacy.
WOMEN tend to feel deep emotions, such as insecurity, worry, resentment, hopelessness, mistrust, control, disapproval, possesiveness, need, confusion, overwhelmed and a total failure. The more support that a woman connects with, the more her trust grows inside her and releases all the negative emotions that her chemical hormones plant inside her.
WOMEN yearn, for understanding, respect, devotion, reassurance, a soft touch of his lips to be cared for, to be admired, to feel equal leverage, and to feel loved genuinely.
WOMEN love to find their space through simple things such as: reading a book, listening to music, work in a garden, excercise (wink), get a massage, write a journal, watch a chick flick, take a bubble bath with lots of candles, chat with a girlfriend for a long time, go shopping, take a long walk, have a nice glass of wine, please their partner (wink), or simply just curl up on the couch and dream.
WOMEN are the heart of a relationship, they are the fantasy, they are the flower, the candles, the wine, the soft romantic music, the sexy outfit, the pleasure of joining as one, and they are the sweet smell of nature.
WOMEN are what men lust after!
WOMEN are what men yearn for!
WOMEN are what men live for!
WOMEN are what men fall for!
WOMEN are what men kill for!
WOMEN are what men plan for!
WOMEN are what men fight for!
WOMEN are what men change for!
WOMEN are what nurture men!
WOMEN are what love men!
WOMEN are what releive men!
WOMEN are what softens men!
WOMEN are what makes a man tick!
WOMEN complete men!
WOMEN are what a man NEEDS!
As much as women can be confusing, emotional, misguiding, clever, coniving, frustrating, crazy, annoying, downright nasty at times, cold, detatched, and at times freaky, men have a way of just by a touch or a word to reach out and make them feel safe and loved.
I am proud to be the WOMEN in my mans life! Are you?
Source:Hindustanis.org
Dating Advice for Women – Eight Key Rules
Dating advice for women has changed drastically in the last decade. Women used to bend over backward to please a potential suitor; then they would lose them as time wore on. “I never seem to get past the first few months. What am I doing wrong?” Sound familiar? It may be that your intentions are good, but you’re trying too hard. I’ve put together some sound dating advice for women in order to avoid this and make things go more smoothly.
Talk to Avoid
Don’t talk about your last boyfriend, fiancĂ© or husband on the first few dates. Men immediately think one of two things if you talk about your ex during a date. Either you’re still hung up on him, or you’re bitter and angry about being dumped. A guy doesn’t like either of these options, and he’ll take a pass on someone with that kind of emotional baggage.
Be Yourself
For a single woman, dating advice should probably be more complex than that, but really it all boils down to those two words: “Be yourself.” Don’t pull out all the stops being a sex kitten siren if that’s not you. Forget playing the girl next door to catch his interest if you aren’t that type. You’ll only get yourself stuck in a role that will increasingly frustrate you, and eventually he’ll see through the charade and be offended by your dishonesty.
Don’t Trap Him
Even if you sense that he’s got great potential early on, don’t start talking about your future dreams of marriage and family right away. The most often overlooked dating advice for women is usually the most crucial – men take things slower. They don’t want to be considered as a potential life partner after date number two. They’ll feel trapped, and like all trapped animals, they will run or go on the defensive.
Accept Compliments
You’d be surprised how often men complain that women can’t take a compliment properly. If he tells you that you look wonderful, a simple, “Thank you,” is the right response. Don’t cut yourself down or accuse him of, “Just saying that.” You also shouldn’t go into details about how you borrowed the dress from a friend because it was so expensive you’d never dream of buying it yourself, blah, blah, blah. If he says you look lovely in the dress, acknowledge the compliment and move on. He really doesn’t want the details of how or why you look great – but he will appreciate being thanked for noticing that you do. Accepting a compliment means you are self-confident and comfortable with yourself.
Be on Time
This is great dating advice for women and men. Whether you’re meeting a man someplace or he’s picking you up, it’s not polite or thoughtful to leave him cooling his heels – and no, and it doesn’t build anticipation. It just makes you seem rude.
Express Your Opinions Honestly
Men quickly get bored with women who always agree with everything they say. Sure, it may be flattering to the ego for a bit, but that soon fades to boredom and/or irritation when they realize they can’t sustain an intelligent conversation with you. It’s also draining personally to keep up that kind of charade – what are you going to do a year from now? Stand firm on issues that are important to you, discuss events honestly but don’t get into an argument just to prove you’re right. Disagreeing on some things is what adds spice to a relationship – as long as the disagreements aren’t moral or life-changing.
Don’t be a Pest
It may sound like old-fashioned dating advice for women, but I believe it still holds true – men like to know they’re interesting, but they don’t want to be nagged into dating you. Can you call a man a few days after a date and thank him for a nice evening and chat? Sure! But don’t call the next day, then the next, then the next. Leave one message – if he’s interested, he’ll call you back. It may take a few days (he could be busy, he could be nervous). If he isn’t interested, increasingly desperate, repeated messages from you won’t help your cause.
Be Positive
You are on a date, not at a therapy session. Spilling your guts about how much your mother drives you crazy and why you want to kill your boss will not endear you to a man who had hopes of enjoying a relaxing evening with you. Should you hope that a relationship includes friendship? Yes! But don’t treat a man you’ve recently started dating like your old college roommate or priest. True confessions aren’t good for the soul or the relationship too early on, and lots of complaining gives the impression you may never be happy with your life.
Dating advice for women could go on for pages, but the eight major rules above will cover almost every situation. Whether it’s your first date or your tenth, it’s all about being true to yourself, honest with him and kind to both of you.
Source:Hindustanis.org
What do men want from women?
Actually, it's pretty simple. Deep inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. How many times have men said to their wives, "If you would just trust me." Many men wonder why it seems so difficult for their wives to do something so seemingly simple. The answer stems from the physiological differences between the sexes.
It begins at birth when little boys are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher levels of testosterone. With testosterone comes the physical strength to both defend themselves from danger and/or run away from a threat. Most little girls don't have that ability. They don't have the strength to defend themselves in a physically fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically (or try to). Little girls don't have that physical option of power. Since a person can only trust from a position of strength, those same little girls will grow up into women who naturally have a more difficult time "trusting" when they feel vulnerable.
So men, when you ask the woman of your choice to simply "trust you," it's not that she can't, she's just more vulnerable than you. If you want her to trust you, she needs something that will help develop that trust.
Perhaps even a tool or gesture that she can count on until that trust with you is established. Thankfully this tool already exists and is known every woman. What cultivates trust in a woman is a man who consistently keeps his word. Making a promise is meaningless if there is no follow through.
A woman needs to SEE her man fulfill his promises because seeing is always more powerful than hearing. Allow me to illustrate. Imagine someone told you that I was the meanest person they had ever met. For months all you heard was how terrible I treated my family and friends. Then one day you met me and during the course of our meeting you begin to notice that I didn't seem to be as horrible as you were led to believe. I actually appeared to be rather pleasant. Would you change your entire opinion about me from one visit? Probably not! However, if you saw me respond consistently with kindness and humility over a period of weeks, your opinion of me would begin to change. A paradox has just been established. The kindness you have seen in me for the last few weeks does not match what you have heard about me. All the rumors of how mean I am begin to fade into darkness because of my consistent actions. Over time what you see will replace most if not all of your concerns about my character.
Men, with all the relationship advice I give, I must tell you that when the woman you love sees your words lining up with your actions, trust will naturally follow. When you don't keep your word it causes your wife/girlfriend to become fearful. From her perspective, she has entrusted you with her Heart and WANTS to trust you. She simply needs your help in giving you what you want.
Source:Hindustanis.org
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Are You One Of The 40,000,000 Invisible Women In Our Society? By Georgia Donov
It's a sad but true fact that so many women over forty feel invisible. Changing this has become my passion.
One of the things that inspired me to do what I now do, after having had an executive position with a telecom giant, was an experience I had one day following one of my seminars.
An attractive, well dressed woman came up to me and told me that the thing she hated most about becoming older was that she felt invisible. She explained how, everywhere you look, you see woman in their twenties and thirties being presented as role models for beauty and style. Rarely do you see mature women in TV and print ads and some of the fashion magazines feature teenagers as models. There's only one magazine devoted entirely to the mature woman - More Magazine.
Just because we're getting older doesn't mean we have to become an invisible part of society. It doesn't mean we we have to let ourselves go, gain weight and start looking frumpy. My late aunt Josie, while in her eighties, looked like she just stepped off the cover of Vogue whenever she went out.
A woman can still look great as she ages if . . . she learns how to do it.
Many of the makeup techniques that work on a twenty or thirty year old, are a disaster on the face of a forty five year old woman. Unfortunately, many older women have not yet learned this. As we age, one of the makeup secrets we need to know is that "Less is better."
Mistakes in wardrobe are even more apparent. Recently, I was asked by a national magazine to comment on some celebrity women. Here's what I had to say about an outfit that Kim Catrall, who I happen to adore, was wearing:
"Belly bearing cutoffs and lace up top are not for the over forty woman. Longer, boy cut shorts and a fuller cut tank with a built-in bra would give her the same bare look."
Below are some fashion anchors every woman over forty should have in her wardrobe:
- A "Little Black Dress" - Black/Navy Pencil or A-Line Skirt - Black/Navy Slacks/Trousers - Black Cashmere Sweater - White Shirt - Comfortable yet Chic Black 2" heels - Classic Trench Coat.
Fashion tips: Pants with clean lines, no pockets, no pleats look best on almost every woman because they are slimming.
Black or navy will make you look thinner, but add some color with accessories to give your look some flair. Elastic waist pants or skirts are to be avoided at all costs because they flatter no one.
Develop a signature. Wear a favorite ring or special bracelet all the time. Something people will always identify and remember about you.
The scarf should be a wardrobe staple. Learn how to use it and wear it many ways, such as, looped through your pants as a belt, or tied on the handle of your handbag.
Source:Hindustanis.org
Friday, February 9, 2007
Women who are breaking barriers
General Sheila R. Baxter, Commander, Madigan Army Medical Center
The first female general officer in the Army Medical Service Corps is Brigadier (Brig-a-deer) General Sheila R. Baxter, a 28-year career officer. A Brigadier General is an officer of the rank between colonel and major general. In July 2002, she received the Honorary Silver Award for excellence in community service from the Lord Mayor of Pirmasens, Germany. She is a licensed Evangelist with the Church of God in Christ, Inc.
Dr. Mae Jemison, NASA Astronaut
Dr. Mae Jemison blasted into orbit aboard the space shuttle Endeavor, September 12, 1992 – the first woman of color to go into space. This historic event was only another in a series of accomplishments for this dynamic African-American women. Dr. Jemison was Science Mission Specialist (a NASA first) on the STS-47 Space lab J flight, an US/Japan joint mission. She conducted experiments in life sciences, material sciences, and was co-investigator in the Bone Cell Research experiment. Dr. Jemison resigned from NASA in March 1993.
Angelina Jolie, Actress and Goodwill Ambassador
Not only is Angelina Jolie an Academy Award-winning American actress and model, she is a Goodwill Ambassador for the United Nations (U.N.) High Commission for Refugees. Since 2001, she frequently travels to countries in order to draw attention to the plight of people in developing countries. Since taking on her goodwill ambassador duties, Jolie has, on numerous occasions, made public statements that she wants to quit acting and concentrate on her U.N. work.
Anne Mulcahy, CEO of Xerox
Anne M. Mulcahy is chairman of the board and chief executive officer of Xerox Corporation. She was named CEO of Xerox on August 1, 2001, and chairman on January 1, 2002. She began her Xerox career as a field sales representative in 1976 and assumed increasingly responsible sales and senior management positions. From 1992-1995, Mulcahy was vice president for
Danica Patrick , Professional race car driver
Danica Sue Patrick is a professional race car driver in the Indy Racing League (IRL). She was named Rookie of The Year in the 2005 IRL Championship. Last year, she also won her first pole position, leading a 1,2,3 sweep by Rahal-Letterman Racing at Kansas Speedway. Patrick became the second woman to accomplish this feat in the IRL IndyCar Series – the first being Sarah Fisher in 2002 at the Kentucky Speedway. Patrick will be competing again this year in the 2006 IRL IndyCar Series, giving her another chance at qualifying and racing in the Indianapolis 500.
Condoleezza Rice,
U.S. Secretary of Sta
Dr. Condoleezza Rice became the 66th Secretary of State on January 26, 2005. She is the first woman to hold this position. Dr. Rice is the second in the administration of President George W. Bush. She was previously Bush's National Security Advisor during his first term (2001–2005). Before joining the Bush administration, Dr. Rice was a Professor of Political Science at Stanford University where she served as Provost from 1993 to 1999.
Source:Hindustanis.org
Thursday, February 8, 2007
WOMEN women-Make them partners in progress
Once upon a time, 50-odd years ago, we Indians gave ourselves a Constitution. It is one of the most progressive constitutions in the world, and guarantees equal rights to men and women, including the right to vote, to own property, to move about freely within the country and to earn a living.
All through our childhood in the 1950s and 1960s, we the Midnight’s Children, were reminded of this. As we grew up, however, we began to see a parallel reality. We found that notwithstanding all the promises made in the Constitution, men in India, especially upper caste men, accrued more advantages by virtue of being born male. They are fed better, given better education and treatment when ill, are mostly paid higher wages than women counterparts and have infinitely better access to markets and information of all kinds. Contrary to the natural pattern of gender balance the world over, Indian men also outnumber women everywhere in India (933 women for 1000 men).
Undernourished
Most Indian women go through life in a state of great nutritional and educational deprivation. They continue to be married off at a very young age, have multiple pregnancies before their bodies are capable of bearing the burden, bring forth underweight and weak babies and despite medical advancement die in large numbers from treatable, pregnancy-related problems. The average Indian woman bears her first child before she is 22 years old; 90 per cent are anaemic and reproductive tract infections are endemic among both urban and rural poor due to poor hygiene and generally weak constitution. Only 54 per cent of the women are literate, and although girls are entered into school, the rate of girl dropouts remains large due to poverty and early marriages followed by early pregnancy.
UNENDING WOES: Low pay, poor health and high rates of maternal mortality still haunt most of the Indian women. — Photo by Manoj Mahajan
The first task before us is to make the importance of women’s work and their great contribution to the GDP and the growth of the nation, visible to our policy makers and the women themselves. In 1989, a committee constituted by the Rajiv Gandhi government, submitted Shramshakti, the first-ever national report on women working in the informal (unorganised) sector in India. The report revealed that almost 90 per cent of women workers were working in this sector. They continue to perform multiple, unpaid tasks, besides labouring as mothers, wives and domestic workers, cattle rearers, fuel and fodder collectors. As workers, however, women had poor visibility in government reports and surveys. They were almost always described as housewives, even when they were principal bread winners for the family, and remained unprotected by labour laws.
Unlike men, working women in the informal sector have poor access to education, skill upgradation and health care. Sixteen years after Shramshakti and three decades after ‘Towards Freedom’— the first status of women report— Indian women’s literacy and life expectancy levels may have gone up a bit , but low pay, poor health and high rates of maternal mortality still haunt most of them through life. And since it has become possible (by a gross misuse of ultrasonic tests) to foretell the sex of an unborn foetus, aborting the females has become a rampant practice in affluent states like Punjab, Delhi, Haryana, Gujarat and Maharashtra. As a result, the male-female ratio is becoming alarmingly adverse to women.
It is time the government and nodal bodies thought of bringing out a nation-wide status report on India’s women that provides policy-makers with clearly articulated and well- researched data. The last such report was prepared in 1975, and the facts it highlighted shook the conscience of the nation’s policy-makers. As a result, many changes were made in the methods of census data collection, labour laws, education and healthcare systems. In the last decade the gradual privatisation of medical and educational institutions has created further grave disorders in the lives of women. Coupled with the decline in the numbers of women in practically all the states of India, this, if not put in perspective against a nation-wide picture, will have grim consequences for us.
Fifty years may be a short time in the history of a nation, but it has brought about profound changes in the lives of India’s educated, urban working women. They have broken out of all caste, class and gender-based cages and proved their mettle in every field. However, we must continue to worry about a majority of our women who are still sedimented at the bottom in the urban and rural poverty zones. Important bodies like the National Commission of Women should strive for this, instead of wasting their time in acting like a wing of the ruling party, whatever it is, and communalising or politicising individual incidents of rapes, dowry harassment and child marriages in a piecemeal fashion.
Rise in crime
There is another major need, and this is to check the alarming rise in crimes against women everywhere. The National Crime Records Bureau reported in 1998 that by 2010, crime against women would have a higher growth rate than our population. But crimes against women are a multidimensional problem, and cannot be cured by a simplistic remedy. Progressive legislation like the law for Prevention of Domestic Violence as also the amended inheritance law for Hindu women, are healthy developments. But this has to be followed by sensitisation of the public, the police and even the lower judiciary about the human rights of women. An extra effort is needed here because women are still grossly under-represented in our legislative bodies. True, reservations for women in panchayats have brought a million women in the rural areas into decision-making arenas of the gram panchayats. But now their hands need to be further strengthened by measures that will control the traditional women-baiters on the one hand, and train and equip the elected women with the needed skills and knowledge on the other.
It is a shame that despite making the reservation of 33 per cent seats for women in the legislature a part of their election manifestos, most political parties have chosen to stall the actual Bill for making this a reality through devious arguments. On the domestic level, parents must now look beyond worrying endlessly about ‘settling’ their daughters at the earliest with a heavy dowry and instead arm their daughters with proper education and skills for being financially self-supporting.
When all is said and done, critical dimensions of freedom and equality cannot be measured like sugar or ghee. Human dignity, self respect, mental and emotional security are the birthright of every citizen. It is hard to quantify and measure them. Data helps, but understanding the truth behind the data is even more important. Real gender equality, like charity, must begin at home.
Source:Hindustanis.org